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March 11, 2013

SpendingTimeWithChildrenIsMoreImportantThanSpendingMoneyOnThem

This is continued from yesterday’s post, ‘Lets strengthen our Marriages’. If you missed it, I am very passionate about seeing men step into deeper, more intimate relationships with Christ. I am equally passionate about seeing men become better husbands and fathers. In our Bible Study group we are reading the book Man Alive, by Patrick Morley. Here are ten points I want to share with all of you, that the author shares with us, on how to really love a child. Future parents, take notes and learn to apply these things now in your life, and what you reap now you will sow later.

Deuteronomy 6:5-9

You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength.“And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.

1. Pay your Children to Read the Bible

Personally I havent incorporated this, not sure if I will or need to. But keep it as a tool in your toolbox. Patrick Morley, the author of this book, believes in it, and has two children that still read their Bible, and Love Jesus as adults. They set up an honor system, with small goals to accomplish big goals. Their program was based on grace, were heart shaping was the key, not behavior control. He says: “Paying our kids to read the Bible was the single best thing we ever did for our childrens faith.”

2. Lead your Children in Family Devotions

As stated in the last post, if we want success in any area we must be intentional. Set up weekly nights or routines to put this into practice and stick to it! As the verse above states, we need to teach our kids; teach them the power of God’s Word, the power and rewards of prayer, praise and worship.

3. Establish Work boundaries

Where we spend our time is where our heart is. Work is necessary and important. But we need to draw limits. Building relationships with our children is more important than extra work and extra money. When your kids are 25 they wont thank you for all that extra money you made them when you were not home.

4. Make your Family you Number ONE Ministry

Dad’s we need to work on encouraging our kids more with words and actions. We can greatly discourage our kids by lack of involvement, and too much structure. Build your home around grace, stand up for righteousness, no compromise on family morals or values, but allow the indivudual freedom of our children. Tough to do, but necessary.

5. Spend Time with and Date your Children

When kids are young family activities are the best. As children progress in their teens, one on one time is essential to having that personal time to build that relationship. My wife and I each set up date day once a month with our fourteen year old. She Loves it and looks forward to it.

6. Pray for and Encourage your Children with Words Every Day

No one is going to love your kids like you. No one is going to want them to succeed more than you. So faithfully pray for them every day. Be specific. God says ask and you shall recieve. If you ask for the things that align with God’s Word for your children, consider it done! Speak encouraging words to them as often as possible, how proud of them we are, how much we love them, great job, your getting so much better, etc, etc.

7. Attend as many of your Childrens Activities as Possible

Who doesnt like people watching, cheering, and supporting them in something they are passionate about or good at? We expect our kids to listen to us when we talk about what we feel is important, we should show them the same respect and be there supporting them in their important activities.

8. Eat Diner Together

Food, fellowship, laughs and getting caught up on the day, planning future family days etc. is so rich and healthy for the family. Celebrate it over food!

9. Expose your Children to Ministry

To expose them we have to be involved and exposed ourselves. But lets get involved with them, learn with them, or teach them how desperate the needs are of people in our communities and world. Teach them how to serve, care and love  just as Jesus still does for all of our needs.

10. Make your Children Responsible to attend Church

Obviously preteens, kids roll where we roll. But when they hit the teens put the ball in their court. You want to go out this weekend, you gotta come to church. Too tired, cant wake up to make it, then next week you cant go out. Transfer the responsibilty onto them!

Let’s learn by God’s Love, Grace and Mercy how to Love with reckless abandon. Don’t withhold any ounce of Love or encouragement. Challenge yourself, Jesus proved there is nothing more powerful in this world than loving with no reservations!

There was nothing in here about discipline, which is very important also. But remember this one: Discipline with relationship leads to maturity. Discipline without relationship leads to rebellion. The greater relationships we build with our children, the less discipline we actually need to enforce, I truly believe that.

 

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2 Comments
  1. Mike Sands permalink

    I like that saying, “Discipline with relationship leads to maturity. Discipline without relationship leads to rebellion.” Great post.

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